4. PICK A TIME AND PLACE
As ridiculous as this sounds, before you can send out invitations, you need to know when and where this shower will take place.
Where's the pahtee?
Your home may be the perfect spot, but that puts the onus on you to have cleaned the bathroom and washed the dishes. So know that it's perfectly acceptable to host a shower at a public place like a hotel or restaurant. Of course, depending on what theme you chose, certain locations might be far more appropriate than others, and you might want to have the shower at a strip club, a cottage, by the pool or in Mongolia. Lastly, how much you want to spend may affect where you choose to have the shower: if you want to rent out the arcade room at Chuck E. Cheese's and have a shower there, you'll have to pony up some cash. Also, the bride-to-be will kill you. Have it in your place, and all you have to pay for is food and drinks.
When is it?
Know that the shower should be three to six weeks before the wedding. This just in: you'll need to talk to the bride-to-be about her schedule and when she's available to attend her party. Finally, it's also a good idea to look at your own calendar, taking into account how much time you need to plan, clean, shop and generally stress-out. Depending on the size of the shower, it could take you a few hours to prepare or a few days. Factor this in when you're determining when the shower should be. We guarantee you'll be miserable if you don't.
