Kneading is what you do already when people ask you to give them neckrubs. You grab on to the sides of the neck and squeeze rhythmically for approximately 30 seconds, all the while smiling at your partner. These neckrubs are nice, but they usually aren't very inspiring. Now that you've got your victim's whole back in front of you, take advantage of the opportunity to knead any muscles you can find. Here are some tips:

  • The muscles around the shoulders and lower neck are particularly receptive to this treatment, but be cautious around the neck - don't apply pressure directly to the spine at any time.

  • Try to squeeze the flesh with your whole hand, being responsive to the muscles you're trying to reach and any feedback or body language from your victim.

  • Don't pinch the flesh.

  • Don't try to do much kneading where the skin is tight over the rib cage or on the sides.

  • The secret is to go slowly and to knead the muscles, not the skin.


Milking is a specialized form of kneading which uses both hands to grab onto a single large muscle group or patch of skin. Once you have the flesh in your hands, you squeeze with one hand and then the other, alternating rhythmically and rolling the flesh around while you do it. This works well on the shoulders, upper arms, thighs, and calves. Again, don't pinch and don't try to grab up a bunch of flesh on the ribs, shoulder blades, or sides.

These movements are versatile and they are the deepest massage you will do. They allow you to work deep into the muscles, which should have been relaxed by your earlier moves. Continue to knead and milk the flesh until you feel that your victim has had enough or your hands are too tired to go on.